Lately, I’ve been so disappointed in people’s actions & words. There aren’t many great examples any more of decency. In men mostly. I have mostly seen examples of selfishness, manipulation, judgmental, and all in all shitty behavior. Most Men want attention but don’t want to give any. Most men can look & act like the troll under the bridge , yet they have an opinion on your looks. Most men want you to root for them., cheer them on, applaud for them, and make them feel better…. Yet they don’t feel the need to return any of those things.

You could be winning the biggest accomplishment but since it’s not about them … they feel like you aren’t giving them the attention and the applause that THEY need. Or… you could be at your lowest: the deepest depression, the most pain, the most stress, absolutely scared to death and they will just kick you while you’re down because you aren’t given them what they need at the exact time they need it.

Look pretty, be quiet unless spoken to, give praise even when they have done some pretty heinous shit, accept it when they take credit for any ideas you have given, don’t get sick, be happy and smile, keep up with appearances, be grateful for their presence because they didn’t have to give their attention today.

Look around.

Bad examples of shitty humans are everywhere. They are blowing shit up. Stealing. Lying. Committing crimes and just laughing at everyone because they know it’s acceptable.

Sure. They promise a lot. Until they get what they need or when they don’t get what they want from you. They love you as long as you fit in to the box they have built for you. They care about you , as long as you put them first over everything else. What a disappointment.

Someone, some where , will cry “that’s not fair! Men go through some shitty situations too”. Because they love to remind you of their trauma or their battles. Yet scoff at yours. Don’t forget their “Male Loneliness”.

I’ve given up hope that decent men are abundant in this world. I’ve given up hope that decent women are abundant in this world. As the world is burning, I wish there was a glimmer of hope that someone actually gave a shit.

So … when I need to be reminded of good humans doing good things… these are my Top 10 movies I watch when I need to escape reality and find an alternate world where people give a shit about people.

10. Nick & Norah’s Infinite Playlist

9. Sleepless In Seattle

8. Notting Hill

7. Picture Perfect

6. Shakespeare In Love

5. Reality Bites

4. Some kind of Wonderful

3. Say Anything

2. 50 First Dates or The Wedding Singer

1. When Harry Met Sally

Are these my top movies ever? No.

These are movies that I can finish and go… that was nice, they looked happy, that was sweet, it had that ending that makes you sigh because it was fucking refreshing to witness a good outcome with people that actually fucking care about another person.

These movies I’ve listed have a tough story at times but end up seeing the good in people. True intentions. I wish people (even myself) could see the good more often.