Valentine’s Day is one of those holidays that people either loathe or Love it. Although I don’t really partake in the holiday, I do Love it. Do I think everyone knows what unconditional Love is? Sadly No. I do think people confuse Love with other words like.. lust, complacency, codependency, obligation, surrender, greed, revenge, friendship, or just “meh you’ll do”.

The actual definition of Love is vague as fuck. When reading it… it doesn’t really represent what unconditional-true blue- over the moon- Love is does it?

You see … vague as fuck. This definition could almost describe how much you Love pizza or your fondness for baby animal videos that find their way across your feed. It doesn’t really describe the unconditional Love that you feel for the person you adore the most. Does it?

Kids lead by example. If a child never is shown what unconditional Love is… when will they learn? Once they reach adulthood, they’ve already adopted what the word Love could mean or have a warped sense of the word and now it’s an act they won’t unlearn out of repetition, protection, or deflection.

Is choosing complacency or obligation Love? Is lust, the kind that races through your body and intercepts logic in your brain, Love? Is being dealt a hand and grasping it just because it’s easier Love?

You can Love a chilly day in October. You can Love your sister or brother. You can Love a great Pad Thai. But if you say you Love the person you want to spend the rest of your life with… it seems … pointless. Because one day, you’re gonna bitch and complain that it’s too windy on that October day or the day when you say “I’m sick of Pad Thai, I want to “try” something else. To be with the person your heart beats for, your body gets filled with butterflies when you hear their voice, and your soul lightens up when they walk through the door.. that isn’t Love…. that is unconditional- true blue- over the moon- LOVE.

Why would someone not want to feel that? Do they know that it exists? Do they not feel worthy of that? I’m not sure & I will ever understand why THAT kind of Love isn’t accepted, appreciated, and shown more.

Valentine’s Day is cute, sweet, thoughtful, but it’s not often represented as Unconditional Love.

If someone handed me a card that said… “I like having hot sex with you, let’s keep enjoying each other’s company while the time lasts”. I would respect that more than someone handing me a card that says I Love You all while they have a side piece and talk shit about the way you look or what they don’t like about you to their friends. That’s not Love AND that’s not worth it to anyone involved. It’s actually denying everyone in that situation true happiness or Love.

So… is “Love” actually worth it?

Unconditional Love chooses who & when. You’re not gonna get around it. Your brain could say … “umm ya… this is not a good idea” and follow up with a list of why it isn’t a good idea to unconditionally Love this person. If you truly Love someone , none of that matters. You will still fucking love them more than anything in the world. Now can you love them from a far? Sure. It feels like fucking torture but Yes, you can Love them and not be with them. Your heart holds a place for them and your mind will replay the curve of their face, the sound of their voice, the touch of their hand … through out your life. It’s gonna fucking hurt. It’s gonna hurt but, you can say that you truly have felt the magic of unconditional Love. It’s rare but you were lucky enough to hold it in your heart.

And life moves on.

You see the flowers, the hearts, the cards, the whole parade of Valentine’s Day march across your screen, down your street, or right in your face… and it makes you think about things. All you can do is smile and hope that they feel unconditionally Loved and that they remember this day vividly for the rest of their days so that this memory can bring a smile on their face on their cloudiest day. To bring them peace when their life is currently in chaos. To ease their pain when they are deeply hurting. To make them laugh when they need it the most.

Unconditional Love. I hope they feel that.